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    DH sexual dysfunction- update

    This is a bit awkward, but I need advice from someone who also deals with DH sexual dysfunction.

    So we started TTC (trying to conceive) for an April baby, but only BD (baby dance (sex)) once during my fertile period, mostly due to DH (dear husband) and his low libido, and sometimes not being able to achieve a full erection, and sometimes when he does, he can't get out. Today I started AF (aunt Flo-menstruation/period) and so we are going to the TTC (trying to get pregnant) for the may baby. We've been dealing with DH issues almost all of our relationships. I used to get very upset thinking it was me, but eventually I came to terms with the fact that it wasn't me, and he was attracted to me, but he had been taking painkillers, muscle relaxants for years for neck problems, and Prozac for depression and anxiety. I know that these medications interfere with his libido. Besides, he's a COP, and his days are busy, and he's very tired.

    My concern is that once I'm back in my fertile period, he won't be able to perform when we need to. This time I'm going to use OPK (ovulation predictor kit) so that we can be sure to do it at the right time. He told me that he would try his best to do this every day during my fertile window, but I'm just afraid that he won't be able to. I try my best not to push him, because it only makes it worse. He was supposed to see a sex therapist soon, but he hadn't made an appointment yet. And he's tried Viagra before, but it just gives him an erection, but he can never finish when he's on it. Besides, it's expensive, and the insurance doesn't cover it. Sometimes we don't have any problems at all, but most often it just doesn't work. We are only 33 years old. Does anyone have any advice or maybe have the same problem? I never thought I'd want more sex than my husband, but I want it all the time, and he's just never in the mood. Sometimes it's just heartbreaking.

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    Low libido is actually a blow to our self-esteem, isn't it? For example, even when they say it's not us, we can't help but feel that it is. I guess I always thought that guys just want sex all the time and never think about giving it up. I've already learned that this doesn't apply to many guys. I always initiate events myself, so of course I will feel unattractive and that he is not interested. But as I said, I stopped blaming myself for it and finally realized that it really wasn't me, although sometimes it still hurts.

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    I had very similar situation, want only to say good luck. All health problems require time, money and patience for treatment. I remember when I realise that I don't want a sex, it was hard to say no, it is like I dissapointed my husband. I realised that I lost my libido and sexual desire and I need a help of a doctor. After some research he prescribed me new generations of Levitra. I didn't known that there are such pills, almost women's viagra. It helped me and now I don't have any libido problems.

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